1 My Husband's Solution
I said to my husband: "I have too many problems."
He replied, "They are not problems. They are tasks.
"Just make a list. Put them in order of priority and work through them."
2 My Son's Solution
I said to my son: "I try to get one major thing done every day. That way I get seven things done every week."
He replied, "Why not try to get three things done every day. Then you'd get three times as many things done. Twenty one things every week."
3 My Neighbour's Solution
I told my neighbour, Alice, who was a nurse before she married, "My mother worries a lot".
Alice replied, "Your other doesn't have enough to do".
Modern Solutions
1 Meditation
2 Water
Drink more water
3 Sleep
Get enough sleep. Set an alarm 30 minutes before bed to allow time to undress, clean teeth, shower or bath, make bed, read.
4 Eat
Snack on fruit, not sugar which gives a spike of energy followed by a decline.
Go out for a good meal. A change is as good as a rest.
5 Phone Friends
Phone a friend
6 Call the Samaritans
Keep their number handy.
7 Discard Prablems
Write your problems on a piece of paper and throw them in a wastebin.
Other solutions are burying or burning, but the wastebin is quicker and more environmentally friendly.
8 NLP
Put your problems in the past. Don't say, I have a pain. Say, I had a pain.
9 Tapping
The tapping solution. Tap your wrist and say an affirmation.
10 Pinboard Affirmation
Write affirmations on post-its and place them on a pinboard to look at and cheer yourself up.
11 Pray.
12 Advise Yourself
Say your problems aloud. Reflect. Answer as if you were a head teacher advising a pupil. Thank yourself. Nod and say you agree to follow the advice.
13 Pinboard Praises
Whenever you hear a compliment or praise, write it down. Put it in a book, or a jar. When you are sad or discouraged, read all the good things people have said about you.
14 Copy Compliments
When you hear somebody else being praised, instead of being envious, decide whether you would make the effort to achieve what they have achieved. If so, start doing it.
If not, just write down the compliment, and remember to praise them and others for doing things and making efforts which you would not do. You will make them happy.
15 Pet A Pet
Get a dog. Or cat. Or pet. A fish tank.
If you can't afford a dog, or don't have the space and time, babysit or dog walk a dog for somebody else once a week.
16 Reframe your name
Name and describe yourself positively. For example, rape 'victims' are told not to call themselves 'a victim', but to think of themselves as 'survivor'.
Do so alliteratively, or with rhyme. Active Angela. Brian the biker. Contented Chloe. Danny the dancer. Efficient Emily. Funny Freddie. Gorgeous Greta. Generous Georgina. Happy Harry. Humorous Hubert. Intelligent Indra. Johnny the joker. Jolly Jasmine. Kathy. Lovely Lucy. Modern Mary. Neat Nora. Organized Olive. Powerful Peter. Recovered, rested Rebecca. Rupert the runner. Sarah the saver. Smiling Sally. Swarna the swimmer. Tidy Tommy. Early Ursula. Victor the victorious. Wonderful William. Excellent Xavier. Easy-going Yvonne.
17 Write A Speech
Imagine a local school or college has asked you to advise the school leavers on getting a job, studying, getting married, having children, and life.
Write a list, two lists. Divide a piece of paper in half. On the left write down all the disasters in your life. On the right, write down all the successes. Opposite the disasters, write what you could have done better and differently. Does everybody face that problem, or is it something you faced which you hope they will not have to face? Regarding the successes in life, were they out of the blue? If so, you never know how your luck could change. Or did you work hard for them? If so, that shows hard work pays off.
Summarise your speech with a catchy phrase. It can start with a bad thing and end with a good one. Think of the book title, Feel the Fear and do it anyway.
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